Monday, September 29, 2008

Trying to See the Good in All of This

I really did intend to post on Friday, but life got in the way. Husband was out of town all weekend and I decided the least I could do to make his life better was clean the house so he has a place of refuge.

So after this Wednesday, Husband will be home until he finds a job. We are obviously worried about what is going to happen, but at the same time, I don't feel the panic I felt when we first found out about this. God has been with us every day of our marriage, and He has a plan for us. Of course we would not choose this path, but we will go forward with trust.

I have all these different thoughts swirling in my head, and I know that no amount of revising is going to make this post any more coherent, so you're just going to get my thoughts as they come. Sorry.

We've been trying to manage our money better this year. We have been living on cash for most things, with moderate success. We have still used our debit card, but not nearly as much. I like to tell people we were going broke twenty dollars at a time in the past. Using cash has made us more aware of how we spend our money and has led us to make small changes. Now is the time to make big changes. Husband and I were already talking about how we still weren't really going without and we were not making as much progress on our debt reduction as we could. Well, our debt reduction will probably be even slower, but we will definitely be going without now. I have been resistant to this, for selfish, lazy reasons. I kept saying I wanted to change, but wasn't following through. Again, this is not the way I would have gone about making a change, but it is obviously going to be what motivates me.

My brother reminded me that we are called to live simply. So much of what we think we need or want is just stuff. As we take a look at our budget and eliminate the extras, our life will be simple indeed. Regardless of what kind of job Husband finds and when he finds it, we know that we won't be making the same income. As the person who buys groceries, gifts, clothing, and things like that, my job will be to make the money stretch as far as possible. I've known I was too caught up in things, at times. This is my chance to really get serious about my role in this family.

I don't want my children to feel stress and worry over this situation. But, at the same time we do have to be honest with them. Right now they don't know that Husband will not have a job, but we will be telling them, once he is home during the day. My three big kids have birthdays in the next two weeks. While we never give extravegant gifts, we do like to give them things they have been asking for over the year. This year, they will be getting very simple gifts. And this is a chance for them to learn about enjoying simple and small pleasures.

Truly, God's love for us is evident every day, and that has not changed. We have been overwhelmed with messages of hope and prayers from friends and family. We look with confidence to this time next year, when we will say that this has truly been a blessing for our family. And in the meantime, we rely on God's grace to see us through.

More cheerful things to come, I promise. However, I will probably not be around much, as I plan to make the most of Husband's time at home.

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10 comments:

  1. I've been thinking about you and wondering how you're doing. I'm glad you updated.

    I agree, there is great power in living simply. I find that sometimes life has a way of making me do what I should be doing but just don't.

    Best of luck and please keep updating!

    Nicole (feedingtimeatthezoo)

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  2. Nicole,

    We will keep you in our prayers. You are so right that God will see your family through this. We will pray that God leads your husband to the perfect job for your family.

    God bless you and we love you!

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  3. I think with the way the economy is going that EVERYONE is going to have to learn to live more simply. You are just getting a head start! ; )

    Prayers for job opportunities for your husband.

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  4. I'm praying for an even better job to come your husbands way. You are very wise to look at this with a positive perspective.

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  5. We are of course praying for you guys. I've never been in a situation like that, my job has always felt very safe. Not always the most satisfying, I have made some changes over the years, but I've never been in danger of losing it, or worried about paying the bills. I'm not sure I would be so peaceful about it.

    For what it's worth, it seems that children often appreciate their things better when they are simple and few. Overwhelming them with all the latest gadgets (as my in-laws like to do) makes the novelty wear off pretty quick. Their imaginations and siblings will keep them entertained. I think it was JPII who wrote that siblings are the greatest gift you can give to a child. In that regard, you've already given them all so much more than what money can buy.

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  6. This is a particularly difficult time to find yourself in need of finding employment so my thoughts are prayers are most certainly with your husband, you and your family.

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  7. Last Sunday I went to pay our weekly bills, and realized that our paychecks weren't syncing up this week. I couldn't pay both the car payment and the daycare bill -- our balance was going to go down past zero if I did. I had a good cry about it, scrambled to find some savings, and decided we'd really have to readjust the way we think about money.

    That very day however, I had also gotten some cash from my Mom (she likes to slip me little gifts here and there when she can), and while I usually use them for fun things/Starbucks, this time it became grocery money.

    It's little gifts like that, though, that make me believe God is watching over us, and will carry us through tough times.

    So much more I could say -- just know I'm thinking of you. I totally relate, and I have faith you'll get through this.

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  8. I'll definitely keep you guys in my prayers!

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  9. Beautifully said! You've got GRACE oozing out of you. I can feel it. God will use this part of your journey to minister to others someday. And you will be able to testify to His goodness and faithfulness AND REALLY BELIEVE WHAT YOU ARE SAYING! That is called anointing!

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